Wow, is this a description? Amazing.

First, go click on the random post feature down there. Do it! It's so cool!

Did you do it? Anyway. I'm a twenty year-old demibi grey-aro cisfemale mutt-raced upper-middle-class american (if that mess of labels is what matters to you), and this is my blog. I make comments in the tags sometimes. My Likes list contains mostly how-tos, reference guides and music, so that's a nice thing to check up on now and then if you like that stuff. My Trntbl is hella and often helps me when I feel low: from cool music to humor clips, it's just the audio version of this blog minus the sj and most of the fandoms. If you ask me things, I will answer them if you're not a dick about it. If you are a dick though, I commend you on being able to blog and type successfully. You do you.

Anyway, it's about to get moderately wild up in here, and I hope you're 100% for the ride.



if u are about to get stabbed just say “I have too much swagger for the dagger” and they will leave u alone

the year according to tumblr

january: post halloween candy hangover

feburuary: couples halloween

march: almost halloween

april: almost halloween

may: almost halloween

june: almost halloween

july: almost halloween

august: almost halloween

september: basically halloween


november: still halloween

december: halloween for jesus


When I see people making snide comments about gray-asexual and demisexual people, they always seem to miss the point of why those terms exist.

I suspect that many of the anti-gray, anti-demi people think that gray and demi folks invented these concepts as ways to claim to be oppressed, and to appropriate LGBT+ people’s struggles. I see the “special snowflake” claim trotted out a lot, too; there’s this widespread belief that gray and demi people are “normal” but want to appear different. Sometimes this even bleeds into misogynistic territory, like “All women are like that,” or “You’re slut-shaming people.”

But the thing so many of the anti-gray and anti-demi people don’t realize is that it does not matter how common, or how “normal” gray-asexuality or demisexuality might be. These words were invented to help people understand themselves and figure out how their sexuality worked. Language evolves to reflect the needs of the people who speak it; we invent words all the time so that we can discuss what makes us similar or different, and so that we can communicate those differences to other people.

The fact that so many people have suddenly started identifying as gray-asexual or demisexual is not a sign that these identities are fads. It is a sign that many people find these words useful and important for understanding their feelings and needs. The existence of these words helps people mark the limits and the development of their sexuality, so that they can make better decisions about what kinds of relationships, lifestyles and sexual activities will work best for them. These words are tools that empower people to take control of their bodies, beliefs, and self-esteem instead of passively trying to follow what society tells them is “normal.” And isn’t that kind of empowerment what the sexual liberation movement is all about?

Alternatives to saying "stupid"


I’ve seen a lot of conflicting opinions over whether the word “stupid” is ableist or not. I’ve decided to err on the side of caution and stop using it. But it’s a difficult habit to break, so I’ve made a list of words to use instead. I’m posting it in case other people find it useful.



From now on Im going to speak like an anime protagonist giving an inspirational speech, because….. *clenches fist* because there are people who believe in me! People who are constantly giving me strength! And even if they’re not with me right now…. *faint smile at the ground*…. They’re always sending  me their wishes a-and I want to be able to give them courage too!!!!


do you ever just kinda wonder what your selling point as a human being or friend is? like, what was the point at which people were like: hey, I’ll keep this human

Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason, you’re in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you.

Deepak Chopra

(via purplebuddhaproject)